ANDY’S MAN CLUB: Where to find a men’s mental health group + anniversary celebration for all ages in West Yorkshire

ANDY’S MAN CLUB: Where to find a men’s mental health group + anniversary celebration for all ages in West Yorkshire

Andy’s Man Club group who supports men with their mental health, which started here in Yorkshire, has gone nationwide whilst still having lots of clubs across the region for men to access and to open up about their mental health.

Andy’s Man Club was formed in early 2016 by Halifax rugby league player Luke Ambler after his brother-in-law took his own life.

The groups’ aim to raise awareness of mental health issues among men and its branch in Leeds has recently celebrated its 2nd anniversary.

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Lisa Bourne who is a mental health activist in Leeds wrote this for Yorkshire Families on the recent celebration in West Yorkshire which took place for all ages…. 

Happy 2ndBirthday!

The 29thof January 2020 marked the 2ndanniversary of Andy’s Man Club Leeds, an inclusive talking group for men that aims to reduce suicide rates.

They celebrated this anniversary on the 2ndof February with a big party at the Brudenell Social Club Leeds, which saw businesses, bands and volunteers all come together to support Andy’s Man Club Leeds. From W2 barbers based in Roundhay giving free haircuts to Cards or Die providing free games, magicians and face-painting, mental health related activities and a tombola there was plenty of entertainment for all ages.

In-between sets of live music, visitors heard truly inspirational stories from group members who shared their positive experiences of how attending the group had helped them through periods of mental illness and suicidal thoughts.

The feeling in the room was one of immense pride, of a supportive family all there for each other as a listening ear.

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The day after that party, 57 men attended Andy’s Man Club Leeds, their biggest number of attendees to date, with 5 new members! The group is run by 15 facilitators who all have lived experience of mental illness and now volunteer at Andy’s Man Club Leeds after the group helped them.

The club is doing an amazing job, going from strength to strength, and encouraging men to talk openly to promote self-care and positive attitudes towards mental health, tackle stigma and ultimately reduce the high suicide rate of men in Leeds.

They welcome new members – the group meets every Monday 7pm – 9pm at Leeds College of Building on North Street and the best way to see their latest news is via Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/Andys-Man-Club-Leeds-335669746930141/

 

Where to attend an Andy’s Man Club Group near you:

 

As well as in Leeds other groups meet at 7pm on a Monday at the following locations:

Bradford: Millside Centre BD1 2HS

Bridgend: Porthcawl Rugby Club CF36 3DA

 

Colllydean Community Centre, Torphins Avenue, Glenrothes, KY7 6UL

Dewsbury: Union House WF13 1AS

 

Dundee Boomerang centre 10 Kemback Street Dundee DD4 6ET

Dunfermline: Erskine Building 4 Pilmuir Street Dunfermline KY12 7AJ

 

Exeter City FC, St James Park Stadium, EX4 6PX

 

Halifax: Shay Stadium HX1 2YS

Hartlepool: Victoria Park TS24 8BZ

 

Hebden Bridge: Town Hall HX7 7BY

Huddersfield: Huddersfield Fire Station, Community Room, Outcote Bank, Huddersfield, HD1 2JT

 

Hull: The Airco Business Lounge HU3 4DL

Leeds: Leeds College of Building North Street Leeds LS2 7QT

 

Manchester The Federation, 2 Federation Street, M4 4BF

Newton Abbot: Coffee #1 46 Courtenay Street Newton Abbot TQ12 2ED

 

North Merchiston Club Watson Crescent Edinburgh EH11 1EP

Oldham: Oasis Academy, Hollins
Road, Oldham, OL8 4JZ

 

Scarborough: Central Library, Vernon Road, Scarborough, YO11 2NN

 

Peterborough: The Focus Centre, Chestnut Ave, Dogsthorpe, Peterborough, PE1 4PE

Plymouth: on course south west Hyde Park House 74 Mutley Plain PL4 6LF

 

Rotherham: The Centre, Brinsworth Lane, Brinsworth, Rotherham, S60 5BU

South Yorkshire Fire and Rescue Community Rooms 197 Eyre Street Sheffield S1 3FG

 

Sby Lt.Johnstone FC, McDiarmid Park, Perth, PH1 2SJ

Stafford: Stafford Rugby Club Blackberry Lane Off Timberfield Road Stafford ST16 2TT

 

Torbay: Preston Sands Hotel, 10-12 Marine Parade, Paignton, TQ3 2NU

Wakefield: 5A Cheapside WF1 2SD

 

Contact Andy’s Man Club

info@andysmanclub.co.uk

You can also contact us on social media in the following ways:

Twitter– @AndysManClubUK

Facebook– /AndysManClub

Instagram– @AndysManClubUK

 

Written By Lisa Bourne who is a Time To Change Champion, founder of Mental Wellbeing Meetups facebook.com/mentalhealthevents, director and trustee of Leeds Survivor-Led Crisis and volunteer for Leeds Suicide Bereavement Service.

 

CHILDREN’S MENTAL HEALTH: How to help your child deal with worries and anxiety

CHILDREN’S MENTAL HEALTH: How to help your child deal with worries and anxiety

We understand that children need physical education and but what about helping a child’s mental health such as how to deal with worries and anxiety? 

As someone who has had mental health problems since I was at school and now being a mum myself and running Yorkshire Families (which aims to get all families exploring Yorkshire regardless of barriers such as mental health problems), I understand the importance of supporting young people and preventing more mental health issues in the future and enabling them to have the ‘best’ start possible. 

I recently went to a workshop on “How to help your child overcome worries and anxiety” by South West Yorkshire Partnership NHS Trust. 

Here are the tips on helping a child with worries and anxiety… 

 

  • Ask your child what they are worried about when you notice they are worried or soon after. Don’t assume you know what is worrying them. Use open questions such as what, when and why?
  • Try to encourage the child to think of solutions to their worry. Ask things like ‘Has that ever happened before?’ Has it happened to someone else? How likely is it that this will happen? If this does happen could there be other reasons for it? Ask if (event) happened to a friend what do they think the friend would do?
  • For children who find it difficult to verbalise their worries encourage them to write or draw their worry. Make a worry box or monster to put the worries in. Go through the worries with the child at a set time each day, not too near to bed time. This limits the amount of time a child worries each day as they know they will have set time to talk and think about their worries.
  • If children find it difficult to recognise anxiety draw a body outline and encourage them to draw physical feelings i.e. butterflies in stomach, shaky legs, you can draw your own physical feelings on a body outline.
  • Some younger children like to draw their worries and tear them up or make them into comical characters. For older children encourage them to write feelings and emotions down in a journal.
  • Encourage children to ‘have a go’ at something they are worried about, give praise if they achieve even a small part of their worry. Set child doable goals using visual pictures, make small steps they can achieve to reach their goals, expect setbacks.
  • Make sure your child can identify activities, places and people they can talk to which help to make them feel relaxed.
  • Teach them simple breathing and distraction techniques e.g. counting rectangles in a room, use a rectangle to slow breathing down i.e. breath in for a count of 2, pause, breath out for 3, pause and repeat.
  • Make sure child can identify someone at home and at school who they can talk to.  
  • Use positive self- talk, children learn from example, encourage them to use phrases like ‘I can do this, I am good at…, I like myself because….

 

To recap: 

ASK open questions (don’t assume)

ENCOURAGE THEM TO SPEAK, WRITE OR DRAW their worries 

CREATE a worry box or monster to put their worries in 

SET SMALL GOALS to overcome their worry 

BREATHE mindfulness and distraction techniques 

USE POSITIVE SELF-TALK Children learn from example 

SUPPORT Make sure a child has someone at home and/or school to talk to 

 

 

Some useful books and resources on helping a Child with worries or anxiety:

‘What to do when you worry too much’ by Dawn Huebner

‘Little Miss Shy’ Roger Hargreaves

Overcoming Your Child’s Fear and Worries, Cathy Creswell and Lucy Willetts.

Websites:

Childline

Anxiety-Young Minds http://www.youngminds.org.uk

Anxiety in Children NHS.UK

Mind https://www.mind.org.uk/…/anxiety-and-panic-attacks

Older children and young people:

Moodjuice self- help resources http://www.moodjuice

Kooth online counselling http://www.kooth.com

Young minds

There are many apps and meditation websites that help children build up a ‘tool box’ of coping strategies to help then deal with situations they find stressful.

e.g. Headspace

 

BUTTERFLIES AT SHEFFIELD THEATRES: A play about feeling butterflies in your stomach: Review

BUTTERFLIES AT SHEFFIELD THEATRES: A play about feeling butterflies in your stomach: Review

Three friends embark on an exciting adventure to chase their butterflies away. They cross new seas to uncharted lands on a journey filled with discovery. The only trouble is they’re all a bit worried about it!

During their voyage the group ride the waves, walk high bridges, skirt deep caves and climb to the sky, before reaching dry land braver than ever before.

An uplifting tale of friendship, courage and facing your fears.

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My daughters and I were invited to The Crucible’s studio theatre to review a show called Butterflies by Tangled Feet and Half Moon.

I had wrongly assumed it would be a show all about butterflies that fly and there would be lots of characters acting as butterflies. But instead what we discovered was a much deeper show about what it feels like to be worried and having butterflies in your belly.

Helping children understand worry through drama

The show was simple in its setting with a stage made up of material and rope, not your normal colourful children’s set. But that didn’t matter as the simplicity allowed for the real values of the production to shine – the tale about the importance of friendship and courage.

It was a great piece of physical theatre with the character capturing the audience’s imagination through their brilliant acting and clever interaction.

Overcoming the butterflies in your belly

I think all too often we teach children about their physical health when their mental health and wellbeing is intrinsically linked. So butterflies in your stomach is a great way to describe and demonstrate what feeling worried can feel like.

The show is suitable for ages 3 – 8 and even my lively three-year-old Arianna sat and was engulfed into the world of proper good theatre, how it should be.

The End

The result of this slick 45 minute performance was incredible when Arianna turned to me and said: “I felt butterflies in my belly when I got a letter about starting school. I want my friends at nursery to go to the same school as me.”

Somehow, the show had managed to explain a complex feeling to my young daughter and enabled her to express her feelings.

To finish off a lovely show inside the intimate studio theatre, the characters handed out butterflies to all the audience as it was their last show that weekend.